Leaving an abusive relationship is a difficult process and there may be many reasons why someone will not be ready to leave the abusive relationship.
For example, the victim might:
- not have any other family or friends to go to,
- be scared that the abuser will hurt them if they try to leave,
- believe the abuser will stop hurting them,
- fear for the safety of his or her children or pets if they leave,
- still hope that the abuser will change,
- not understand that she or he is actually being abused,
- think that she or he deserves the abuse,
- think that the abuse is not that serious,
- care about the abuser and not want the abuser to get charged,
- not have any money of their own because the abuser controls the family finances, and/or
- not know about services and places that can help victims of domestic violence.
Leaving an abusive relationship is also a dangerous process because the abuser might become angry if he or she finds out that the victim is leaving or planning to leave.