I shouldn’t practice my safety plan with my children because it will just scare them more.


It is important to practice your safety plan regularly to make sure that you understand how it works. If you have children, practicing can also be helpful for them to know what to do.

It is also a good idea to practice your safety plan in different ways, because you never know what might happen. Think of things that might go wrong. For example, maybe you won’t have access to the car when you need to leave. You can practice the safety plan using the bus instead. Or, maybe you will have left your cell phone somewhere, or the battery will have died. You could check where there is a payphone to call for help instead. It is important that you and your children know:

  • where bus stops and payphones are and how to use them;
  • how to get to your safe places; and
  • who you can trust, and how to call them.

You know your children best. You know what they can and cannot handle or keep to themselves. Therefore, in addition to getting help from professionals, listen to your intuition. Follow your instincts about the safety plan and discussion based on your relationship with your children.

For general family violence information and referrals to supports and services in your area, contact the Family Violence Info Line. Their toll-free phone number is 310-1818, and they are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, in more than 170 languages.

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